Giving from The Overflow: Giving your kids your best with self-care
Our Children Need Us
The world is a quite an experience and for our children, it can be a rollercoaster of a journey. They need someone to help guide them when they're lost, give them some hints, and a place to return when they’ve wandered off.
My son is still in his toddler years so everything is still so new to him. His emotions are big and powerful and sometimes overwhelming. There are lots of moments when he needs me to show him affection in the midst of his anger, let him borrow from my calm when he’s wrestling with feelings of chaos, show him patience when he’s frustrated.
For our children, there are going to be storms and they need someone to wrap their arms around them and be their safe harbor while they navigate through it.
Children need a lighthouse.
And this is where mom comes in.
Mothers are designed to give, but as the ever-popular phrase goes “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” When my son comes to me looking for direction, or support, or simply a stable presence, I want to not only be able to provide it but provide the best I can offer.
I continually refill my cup so that I can give from the overflow. When I offer him my patience, or my support, or guidance, I’m not draining myself because I’ve taken steps to ensure that I’m feeling balanced and peaceful as well. I want to make sure I have plenty to give.
Now, here's a disclaimer. This doesn’t mean that self-care is going to ensure I never tire, or burn out, or just feel drained. I’m human, as are you, and these things happen. But the recovery is much quicker when self-care is a regular practice. If I’m out of commission for whatever reason, I know what steps I need to take and can bounce back sooner.
So, don’t feel guilty for sending your little one’s off to bed at 8 instead of 8:30 so you can get in some extra “me” time. Buy yourself a new journal, insist your kids play quietly in their room if they wake up before you at 6 am, create your own “mommy only” space; whatever it is you do, remember it’s helping your children in the long run.
By meeting your needs you’re making sure you can meet the needs of others. After all, “you can’t pour from an empty cup” right?